Out-neutral / Negotiating url
I will win
- I got you right where I want you.
- It’s my way or the highway.
- Finders keeper losers weepers.
- Eat your heart out.
- The last laugh will be on you.
- I read you like a book.
- I’ve got the upper hand.
- My, my, my, said the spider to the fly.
I will win
In-negative / Desperation url
House flooded by hurricane
- I feel like my whole world is slowly coming apart at the seams.
- It’s even worse than I thought.
- I can’t stand it anymore.
- I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy.
- Take me away from here.
- Why does everything always happen to me?
- Wake me when it’s over.
- When it rains it pours.
- What's the use?
- That was the straw that broke the camels back.
- It really threw me for a loop.
House flooded by hurricane
Out-neutral / Negotiating url
Can you see my viewpoint?
- Do you have any idea what I’m talking about?
- Do you read me?
- Am I getting through to you?
- Do I make myself clear?
- Are we on the same page?
- Do you get the picture?
- Do you know what I mean?
- Do you see what I mean?
- How does that grab you?
- Will you consider it?
- Do you understand?
- How can I make you understand?
- You can understand, can’t you?
- Catch my drift?
- Will that present a problem?
- Does that ring a bell?
- Will you think about what I said?
- First off, let’s make sure that we’re on the same page.
- I’m just letting you know that this is how I see the situation.
- I'm just trying to be helpful.
Can you see my viewpoint?
In-negative / Explaining url
Feeling depressed
- Things have gotten completely out of control.
- I’m not feeling well now, but hopefully I’ll feel a lot better in the near future.
- I’ve been better.
- I have to figure it out for myself.
- You’re catching me at a bad time.
- I’m having a tough time.
- Recently I’ve been bouncing around like a yo-yo.
- I’ve had my ups and downs.
- I'm not myself.
- I have a lot on my mind.
- I never said it was going to be any different from the way it turned out.
- I never saw myself that way before.
- I feel like a bundle of nerves.
- I feel like a bump on a log.
- If you only knew what I’ve been through.
- I’ve been feeling under the weather.
- What I've been through has really knocked the stuffing out of me.
- Whenever I’m nervous, I tend to clam up.
- After a while, I just ran out of steam.
Feeling depressed
Out-positive / Encouragement url
To a child who finished their homework
- Now that didn’t take so long, did it?
- Good for you.
- That sounds just great.
- Perfect!
- That was a very admirable thing to do.
- Awesome!
- Now, that wasn’t so hard, was it?
- Aren’t you glad that’s over with?
- Don’t you admit that it looked like it was going to be much harder than it turned out to be?
- See what you are capable of doing when you put your mind to it?
- That's my girl!
To a child who finished their homework
Out-neutral / Negotiating url
I find your viewpoint hard to understand-1
- That’s wishful thinking.
- That’s neither here nor there.
- That leads us right back to where we started.
- Is that too much to ask?
- That’s beside the point.
- Now that’s a horse of a different color.
- You’re missing the point.
- You’ve missed the whole point.
- That’s not the same thing at all.
- It happens to be true whether you choose to believe or not.
- Put it whatever way you want.
- I wasn’t born yesterday.
I find your viewpoint hard to understand-1
In-positive / Confidence url
Talking to parents after getting accepted in a top school
- I’m going to make you proud.
- You only get out of life what you put into it.
- When I want something I go for it.
- When I put my mind to it I can do anything!
- I’m going to make big bucks.
- I’m proud of myself.
- I'm way ahead of the game.
Talking to parents after getting accepted in a top school
In-positive / Amazed url
After seeing a beautiful sunset
- It takes my breath away.
- I’ve never seen anything like it!
- Will wonders never cease!
- I can’t believe my eyes.
- It’s mind-boggling.
- These things never cease to amaze me.
- Hold onto your hat.
- Will you look at this!
- Awesome!
- Do you see what I see?
- There’s nothing like it under the sun.
- That's pretty heavy stuff.
- I’ve never seen anything like it.
After seeing a beautiful sunset
Out-positive / Friendship url
Generosity
- Take to your hearts content.
- Whatever is mine is yours.
- My heart is overflowing with a desire to give to you.
- I want you to feel totally comfortable here.
- I want you to regard my house as your home away from home.
- If everything is not totally to your liking, just let me know.
- Allow me to do something for you for a change.
- Share and share alike.
- I’m at your beck and call.
Generosity
Out-neutral / Observation url
About Others – Neutral-2
- She’s covered from head to toe.
- You can’t begrudge him for it.
- She won’t take no for an answer.
- I can’t say I blame him.
- You don’t hold a candle to her.
- He’ll do it if he knows what’s good for him.
- He really did it this time.
- This isn’t like them.
- They’re as different as night and day.
- They haven’t exactly been beating down my door.
- It’s raining cats and dogs.
About Others – Neutral-2
Out-neutral / Advice url
Accept it-1
- Come to terms with it.
- You can’t always get what you want.
- I don’t think you have a choice.
- You’d better get used to it.
- It’s a change for the best.
- You can’t make it last forever.
- Put it in the past.
- You did it of your own free will.
- It’s out of your hands now.
- Let’s face it.
- You have to put up with it.
- You got off lucky this time.
- No use crying over spilled milk.
- You can’t have your cake and eat it too.
- Different strokes for different folks.
- The message is direct, clear, and in your face.
- You made your bed, now lie in it.
- Life has its twists and turns.
Accept it-1
Out-positive / Encouragement url
For a fellow worker who is hesitant to present a new idea to the boss
- There’s nothing to be afraid of.
- You have nothing to worry about.
- Don’t sell yourself short.
- What’s holding you back?
- What could go wrong?
- Your fears are your worst enemy.
- I'm sure they're going to appreciate your trying.
- You have nothing to lose, and everything to gain.
- At the very worst, they won't use your idea, but it’s certainly not going to hurt anything.
- What's the downside?
- Grab the brass ring.
- Maybe they’ll take you up on it.
- What’s the worst case scenario?
- Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
- No pain, no gain.
- Speak up and make yourself heard.
- You don’t have to sell yourself to me, screw up your courage and say what you have to say to the powers that be.
- Just remind yourself that speaking up is not a bad choice, mind you.
- Don’t worry, they’ll understand.
- They’re on the up and up, and they’re not going to pull any punches.
- You need to stand up for yourself.
- I think you should jump at the opportunity.
- It never hurts to ask.
For a fellow worker who is hesitant to present a new idea to the boss